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Learn Self Confidence

Posted on 06. May, 2010 by admin.

Confidence is very important.  Confidence in yourself will influence how other people see you, and the extent to which they trust you both as an individual and as part of a team. If you can put aside self doubt, and mistrust, and stop thinking that you “can’t do this or can’t do that” you will be on  your way to self confidence and success.

Some people are born oozing with self confidence, and others develop it as they grow up and develop specific skills and abilities and establish their life path.

For others, it’s an uphill battle that needs to be worked on.  This may be due to they have too often been told that they are useless, incapable, etc.  They may have been unfortunate enough to have overbearing parents or older siblings, or maybe been bullied in school or by others in the neighborhood.

It can be hard to unlearn those views of yourself that have probably been internalized over many years.  However, it is always worth shedding self doubt and re-learning about your self worth.

There are lots of ways that you can achieve this.  Self hypnosis, using affirmations and and other techniques are all possible to learning self confidence.

For all of them, however, you first need to understand that we, as humans, are programmed. Our brain and our conscious and sub-conscious minds operate very effectively.  If you pile in to the brain statements about how useless we are, then the brain will effectively fill our data bank with this detail.  If we ensure that our brain is told that, we are able to learn and achieve.  This will then be reflected in our data bank.

If we then ask of ourselves, “what sort of person am I?’, it is the data bank full of positive information that will give positive answers.

Opening the channel to the subconscious is the key to internalizing the data.  Try playing a tape or CD of affirmations when you are just about ready to go to bed. Your brain has told your conscious mind that its time to sleep, which is an example of self hypnosis.  So your conscious mind switches off, and you subconscious mind is receptive.

This is the technique used to hypnotize people.  When a hypnotist tells you that you are feeling sleepy and your eyes are closing, you will listen to what is being said.  This is exactly what you will do.

Your subconscious mind will accept the information it receives and any instructions it receives.  So, you can be hypnotized into believing that you are a mouse, a dog, a horse, etc. Equally, you can be convinced that you are sensible, capable, able and confident.

Self hypnosis is really about learning how to open the door to your sub-conscious mind and to transmit the information that you want.  The same way that someone else would do. Using tapes or CD’s is a good way of receiving the information you want.

Using affirmations is effective and can be done anywhere and any time.

First thing in the morning, while you are getting ready in the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror and repeat affirmations.  For example:

• I am a confident and capable person.

• I am an achiever, and I will be successful.

• I work hard and deserve to succeed.

• When there are problems, I find solutions

• I am goal oriented and successful.

Repeating affirmations, whatever they are, has to be done on a regular basis, and with belief in what you are saying.

Self confidence is the key to learning new skills, progressing in our work and home life, and the foundation of all self development.

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Positive Attitude Exposed

Posted on 30. Apr, 2010 by admin.

I am going to ask you to something very strange right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer to number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you must have healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are overwhelmed by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

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Impossible Is Just A Word

Posted on 14. Mar, 2010 by admin.

Everyone, at some point in his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big.  Who hasn’t fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer?  Who hasn’t dreamed of being the homecoming queen?  An how many times have you dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships.

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations.  Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams.  And our aspirations easily collect dust in the attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life.  Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But, you know what?  Life could be much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible.  Most people get hung up thinking, I can’t do this.  It’s too hard.  It’s too impossible.  No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember, that scientist are baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee.  Theoretically, they said, it is impossible for the bumblebee to fly.  Unfortunately for the humble, bee, no one told it so.  So, it flies.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them.  The result?  Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

I you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible.  If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards a goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life.  Under one header, list down things “you know you can do”.  Under another header, write the things “you might be able to do.” And under one more, list the things that are “impossible for you to do.”

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things “you know you can do”. Check them off  when you are able to accomplish them.  As you slowly are able to check the goals under the headings, try accomplishing the goals under the other header- the one that reads “you might be able to do”.

As of the items you had written under, “Things I could do”, are accomplished, you can now move the goals that are under things that are “Impossible for you to do” to the list of things “You might be able to do.”

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you though were impossible become easier to accomplish.  And the impossible begins to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination.  It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little.  However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard, end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you are told by someone a hundred years ago, that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you.  If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.  Nothing could be truer.  For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be hard work and discipline.  But take note that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of our comfort zone.  Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain?”  That is as true as it can be.

So, dream on, ,my friend!  Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations.  Think big and work hard to attain those dreams.  As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out, that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

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Red Marbles

Posted on 24. Jan, 2010 by admin.

This was sent to me by a friend.  It is a lovely story; one that makes you think and appreciate life.

I was at the corner grocery store buying some early potatoes.  I noticed a small boy, delicate of bone and feature, ragged but clean, hungrily apprising a basket of freshly picked green peas.

I paid for my potatoes, but was also drawn to the display of fresh green peas.  I am a pushover for creamed peas and new potatoes.

Pondering the peas, I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation between Mr. Miller (the store owner) and the ragged boy next to me.

“Hello Barry, how are you today?”

“H’lo, Mr. Miller.  Fine, thank ya.  Jus’ admirin’ them peas.  They sure look good.”

“They are good, Barry.  How’s your Ma?”

“Fine. Gittin’ stonger alla’ time.”

“Good. Anything I can help you with?”

“No, Sir. Jus’ admirin’ them peas.”

“Would you like to take some home?” asked Mr. Miller.

“No, Sir.  Got nuthin’ to pay for “em with.”

“Well, what have you to trade me for some of those peas?”

“All I got’s my prize marble here.”

“Is that right?  Let me see it” said Miller.

“Here “tis.  She’s a dandy.”

“I can see that.  Hmmmm, only thing is this one is blue and I sort of go for red  Do you have a red one like this at home?” the store owner asked.

“Not zackley but almost.”

“Tell you what.  Take this sack of peas home with you and the next trip this way let me look at that red marble”, Mr. Miller told the boy.

“Sure will.   Thanks Mr. Miller.”

Mrs. Miller, who has been standing nearby, came over to help me.  With a smile said, “There are two other boys like him in our community, all three are in very poor circumstances.  Jim just loves to bargain with them for peas, apples, tomatoes, or whatever.

When they come back with their red marbles, and they always do, he decides he doesn’t like red after all and he send them home with a bag of produce for a green marble or an orange one, when they come on their next trip to the store.”

I left the store smiling to myself, impressed with this man.

A short time later, I moved to Colorado, but I never forgot the story of this man, the boys, and their bartering for marbles.

Several years went by, each more rapid than the previous one.  Just recently I had occasion to visit some old friends in that Idaho community and while I was there, I learned that Mr. Miller had died.

They were having his visitation that evening and knowing my friends wanted to go, I agreed to accompany them.

Upon arrival at the mortuary, we fell into line to meet the relatives of the deceased and to offer whatever words of comfort we could.

Ahead of us in line were three young men.  One was in an army uniform and the other two wore nice haircuts, dark suits and white shirts…all very professional looking.

They approached Mrs. Miller, standing composed and smiling by her husband’s casket.

Each of the young me hugged her, kissed her on the cheek, spoke briefly with her and moved on to the casket.

Her misty light blue eyes followed them as, one by one, each young man stopped briefly and placed his own warm hand over the cold pale hand in the casket.

Each left the mortuary awkwardly, wiping his eyes.

Our turn came to meet Mrs. Miller.  I told her who I was and reminded her of the story from those many years ago and what she told me about her husband’s bartering for marbles.

With her eyes glistening, she took my hand and led me to the casket. “Those three young me who just left were the boys I told you about.  They just told me how they appreciated the things Jim ‘traded’ with them.

Now, at last, when Jim could not change his mind about the color or size…they came to pay their debt.”

“We’ve never had a great deal of the wealth of this world,” she confided, “but right now, Jim would consider himself the richest man in Idaho”

With loving gentleness she lifted the lifeless fingers of her deceased husband.  Resting underneath were three exquisitely shined red marbles.

The Moral: We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds.

Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath.

Today I wish you a day of ordinary miracles…A fresh pot of coffee you didn’t make yourself.

An unexpected phone call from an old friend.

Green stoplights on your way to work.

The fastest line at the grocery store.

A good sing-along song on the radio.

Your keys found right where you left them.

Share this with the people you’ll never forget.  If you don’t send it to anyone, it means you are in way too much of a hurry to even notice the ordinary miracles when they occur.

IT’S NOT WHAT YOU GATHER, BUT WHAT YOU SCATTER THAT TELLS WHAT KIND OF LIFE YOU HAVE LIVED!

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SOUTHERN WOMEN

Posted on 13. Dec, 2009 by admin.

Southern women appreciate their natural assets:
Clean skin.
A winning smile.
That unforgettable Southern drawl.

Southern women know their manners:
“Yes, ma’am.”
“Yes, sir.”
“Why, no, Billy!”

Southern women have a distinct way with fond expressions :
“Y’all come back!”
“Well, bless your heart.”
“Drop by when you can.”
“How’s your Momma?”

Southern women know their summer weather report:
Humidity
Humidity
Humidity

Southern women know their vacation spots:
The beach
The rivuh
The crick

Southern women know the joys o f June, July, and August:
Colorful hi-heel sandals
Strapless sun dresses

Iced sweet tea with mint

Straw hats and big sunglasses

Southern women know everybody’s first name:
Honey
Darlin’
Shugah

Southern women know the movies that speak to their hearts:
Fried Green Tomatoes
Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood
Steel Magnolias
Gone With The Wind

Southern women know their religions:
Baptist
Methodist
Football

Southern women know their country breakfasts:
Red-eye gravy
Grits
Eggs
Country ham
Mouth-watering homemade biscuits with momma’s homemade jelly

Southern women know their cities dripping with Southern charm:
Chawl’stn
S’vanah
Foat Wuth
N’awlins
Addlanna

Southern women know their elegant gentlemen:
Men in uniform.
Men in tuxedos
Rhett Butler

Southern girls know their prime real estate:
The Mall
The Country Club
The Beauty Salon

Southern girls know the 3 deadly sins:
Having bad hair and nails
Having bad manners
Cooking bad food

More Suthen-ism’s:
Only a Southerner knows the difference between a hissie fit and a conniption fit, and that you don’t “HAVE” them, you “PITCH” them.
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Only a Southerner knows how many fish, collard greens, turnip greens, peas, beans, etc., make up “a mess.”
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Only a Southerner can show or point out to you the general direction of “yonder.”
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Only a Southerner knows exactly how long “directly” is, . as in: “Going to town, be back directly.”
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Even Southern babies know that “Gimme some sugar” is not a request for the white, granular sweet substance that sits in a pretty little bowl in the middle of the table.
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All Southerners know exactly when “by and by” is. They might not use the term, but they know the concept well.
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Only a Southerner knows instinctively that the best gesture of solace for a neighbor who’s got trouble is a plate of hot fried chicken and a big bowl of cold potato salad. If the neighbor ‘s trouble is a real crisis, they also know to add a large banana puddin!
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Only Southerners grow up knowing the difference between “right near” and “a right far piece.” They also know that “just down the road” can be 1 mile or 20.
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Only a Southerner, both knows and understands, the difference between a redneck, a good ol’ boy, and po’ white trash.
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No true Southerner would ever assume that the car with the flashing turn signal is actually going to make a turn.
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A Southerner knows that “fixin” can be used as a noun, a verb, or an adverb.
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Only Southerners make friends while standing in lines, … and when we’re “in line,” we talk to everybody!
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Put 100 Southerners in a room and half of them will discover they’re related, even if only by marriage..
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In the South, y’all is singular, all y’all is plural.
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Southerners know grits come from corn and how to eat them.
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Every Southerner knows tomatoes with eggs, bacon, grits, and coffee are perfectly wonderful; that red eye gravy is also a breakfast food; and that fried green tomatoes are not a breakfast food.
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When you hear someone say, “Well, I caught myself lookin’,” you know you are in the presence of a genuine Southerner!
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Only true Southerners say “sweet tea,” “sweet milk,” and “light bread” Sweet tea indicates the need for sugar and lots of it — we do not like our tea unsweetened. “Sweet milk” means you don’t want buttermilk.  And “Light bread” is white bread.
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And a true Southerner knows you don’t scream obscenities at little old ladies who drive 30 MPH on the freeway. You just say,”Bless her heart” … and go your own way.
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To those of you who are still a little embarrassed by your Southerness: Take two tent revivals and a dose of sausage gravy and call me in the morning. Bless your heart!
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And to those of you who are still having a hard time understanding all this Southern stuff, … bless your hearts, I hear they are fixin’ to have classes on Southernness as a second language!
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And for those that are not from the South but have lived here for a long time, all y’all need a sign to hang on y’alls front porch that reads “I ain’t from the South, but I got here as fast as I could.”

Southern girls know men may come and go, but friends are fahevah !

Now…… Shugah, send this to someone who was raised in the South or wish they had been!

If you’re a Northern transplant, Bless your little heart, fake it.
We know you got here as fast as you could

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Today I will choose to be Happy !!!!!!!

Posted on 26. Nov, 2009 by admin.

Beginning this very moment, I am a happy person, for I now truly understand the concept of happiness.  Few others before me have been able to grasp the truth of the physical law that enables one to live happily every day.  I know now that happiness is not an emotional phantom floating in and out of my life.  Happiness is a choice.  Happiness is the end result of certain thoughts and activities, which actually bring about a chemical reaction in my body.  This reaction results in a euphoria that, while elusive to some is totally under my control.

Today I will choose to be happy, I will greet each day with laughter!

Within moments of awakening, I will laugh for seven seconds.  Even after such a small period of time, excitement has begun to flow through my bloodstream.  I feel different.

I am different!  I am enthusiastic about the day. I am alert to its possibilities. I am happy!

Laughter is an outward expression of enthusiasm, and I know that enthusiasm is the fuel that moves the world.  I laugh throughout the day.  I laugh while I am alone and I laugh in conversation with others.  People are drawn to me, because I have laughter in my heart. The world belongs to the enthusiastic, for people will follow them anywhere!

Today I will choose to be happy. I will smile at every person I meet!

My smile has become my calling card.  It is, after all, the most potent weapon I possess. My smile has the strength to forge bonds, break ice and calm storms.  I will use my smile constantly.  Because of my smile, the people with whom I come in contact on a daily basis will choose to further my causes and follow my leadership.  I will always smile first. That particular display of a good attitude will tell others what I expect in return.

My smile is the key to my emotional makeup.  A wise man once said, “I do not sing because I am happy, I am happy because I sing!”  When I choose to smile, I become the master of my emotions. Discouragement, despair, frustration and fear will always wither when confronted by my smile.  The power of who I am is displayed when I smile.

Today I choose to be happy.  I am the possessor of a grateful spirit!

In the past, I have found discouragement in particular situations until I compared the condition of my life to others less fortunate. Just as a fresh breeze cleans smoke from the air, so a grateful spirit removes the cloud of despair. It is impossible for the seeds of depression to take root in a thankful heart.

My God has bestowed upon me many gtifts, and for those I will remember to be grateful.  To many times I have offered up the prayers of a beggar, always asking for more and forgetting to give thanks.  I do not wish to be seen as a greedy child, unappreciative and disrespectful.  I am grateful for sight and sound and breath.  If ever in my life there is a pouring out of blessings beyond that, then I will be grateful for the miracle of abundance.

I will greet each day with laughter. I will smile at every person I meet. I am the possessor of a grateful spirit.  Today I will choose to be happy!!!

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Self improvement and success go hand in hand

Posted on 11. Nov, 2009 by admin.

How do you know if a person is willing to attain self improvement? This is a question with no definite answer. It will all depend on the individual.

Many people have goals, dreams or ambitions but do not know how to go about achieving them. They may have thought about what would make up self improvement and their ideal life, but have no idea how to even begin to make the plans and take the actions required to make them a reality.

Some people have a vague idea on how to go about self improvement. These are the ones that believe that if only they had a better job, or had been given better opportunities, or met the love of their life, or whatever else, everything would be fine and they would be happy.

They feel that their happiness or lack of happiness is decided by external factors and their thoughts and actions are of little consequence.

Some believe that if only they had more money they could have whatever they want and be on their way to self improvement.

They may have spent little time thinking about what they actually want from life, and do not really believe there is anything they can do to create their fuzzy version of utopia anyway, apart from buying more lottery tickets.

Other people do not even know what they actually want from their lives and may even have little idea what would really makes them happy. They seem to just drift from day to day, week to week, month to month, and year to year, and do little more than just about get by.

They may have seemingly secure jobs and be earning enough to live relatively comfortable lives. They seem happy enough and have no great ambition to achieve anything more from their lives than they currently have.

Is self improvement important?

The reality is that throughout our lives we are all constantly growing and developing. Circumstances make us grow and develop, even if we do not make the conscious decision to do so.

Up to a certain age, we learn through formal education and we continue to learn through our experiences for the rest of our lives. We have to learn and grow to deal with everything that life throws at us. We all have to go through self improvement.

Modern life moves at a dramatically faster pace than at anytime in history. For anyone living in modern society there are more opportunities to do anything that you want to do with your life than ever before.

But there is also more competition than ever before, and ever changing technology means that there really are few, if any ‘jobs for life’ anymore. It is now normal not only to change jobs quite often throughout our working lives, but even to completely change careers and industries.

Because the workplace is so competitive, people who are ambitious and hungry for success know they need to learn new skills and knowledge to keep ahead of the pack. To attain this, self improvement is needed.

These are the people that will be most likely to keep their jobs, or progress within their chosen field, or that will be readily employable in different organizations or industries.

A commitment to self improvement and personal growth may well be the deciding factor in how anyone’s future will turn out.

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Tequila and Salt

Posted on 10. Nov, 2009 by admin.

This should probably be taped to your bathroom mirror where one could read
it every day. You may not realize it, but it’s 100% true.

1. There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique.
8. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.
10. When you think the world has turned its back on you take another look.
11. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.

And always remember….when life hands you Lemons, ask for tequila and salt
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Good friends are like stars……..
You don’t always see them,
But you know they are always there.

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Self esteem improvement; Start now before it is too late

Posted on 03. Nov, 2009 by admin.

Be determined to improve your self esteem and you are on your way to great achievement.

Do not let a low self esteem ruin your life. The way you think about yourself determines how you interact with others.

What are some examples of low esteem aspects in you mind that you need improvement on?

1. Nothing you do seems to go right
2. You believe that most people do not like you.
3. You believe that you are not attractive.
4. You choose something and it turns out to be the worst one.
5. You are afraid to converse with others for fear that what you say might not make sense.
6. You feel swallowed up in a whirlpool of frustration.
What’s wrong with you? Your thoughts, actually.

Stop thinking that the world is closing in on you. Get determined to achieve what you desire. Stop blaming other people for your misfortunes. The world is not your problem, you are your own problem.

From this moment on, begin the process of self esteem improvement. Think the right way and be determined to win, and win you will. Just remember that success never comes easily and that is why determination is its counterpart.

Oftentimes, one gets to the brink of success and with just a little disappointment or setback, they lose heart and give up too easily and too soon. A surefire candidate to low self esteem improvement. Who knows what great things might have been achieved if only they had persevered.

Without a high self esteem, your life could be rather boring. Change your thinking and begin to see yourself on top of the world. Make a very special effort to be what you really want to be.

You have to seriously decide either to remain in a miserable state of low self esteem, or acquire self esteem improvement and develop a high self esteem with good character and self image.
The origin of low self esteem.

A low self esteem could begin way back in childhood when children are made to believe that they are worthless. Their self confidence is eroded and they succumb to the idea that they can never achieve success in anything that they do. They were picked on, laughed at, pushed around, called ugly names, and treated with disdain. No wonder they grew up to be full of resentment.

If that was your experience, it is time you cut yourself loose from that mindset and do self esteem improvement. Start reading about the life of successful persons and you will soon discover that many of them had such low self esteem that they could not even complete an elementary education.

Many decided to override their low self esteem and improve their attitude, whatever it took. They became some of the greatest men and women that ever lived.

Low self esteem has never helped anyone else and it sure will not help you. It can only drive you into depression, anger, grudge, fear and all the other evils that it generates.

Re-program your thinking and control your state of mind. You must believe that you are worth much more than you think or you will remain at the foot of the ladder and never make an attempt to climb it.

Do not waste your life away with feelings of inadequacies. Instead, think of ways to go about self esteem improvement. Success is yours, just reach out and grasp it.

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Psychological Self-improvement: Ways to overcome fear

Posted on 02. Nov, 2009 by admin.

People are usually afraid of negative things. They are afraid of self-improvement because of this fear. Psychological self-improvement may help you in this situation.

In psychological self-improvement, The best way to remove this fear is to understand that life is always in the cycle of ups and downs. No one is permanently up or permanently down. Remember that no one can avoid these ups and downs even the most envied Hollywood stars.

What we should do about these downs is to learn from it and not to avoid it. We should learn how to handle our problems for our psychological self-improvement.

Problems affect us every day. These problems bring us misery due to the fact that we have feelings. We should never loose hope in figuring out solutions to these problems. All we need is to learn how to overcome it and not to be overcome.

Problems can never be overcome but we can learn from them. This is where Psychology plays an important role.

Psychologists say that we should always be careful in our decisions concerning our problems. We should handle our problems properly and learn how to deal with it. Learning from mistakes helps us in preparing ourselves for psychological self-improvement

There are a lot of myths about every event in our lives is due to pre-determined reason. Another belief says that what we encounter in our lives today is our preparation for other things that may come in our lives. To understand what may happen to us in the future, we must learn from the present.

With all that, it is also true that the unexpected can happen anytime. However, you should keep in mind that a psychological self-improvement is not always for the worse and consequently, you must never let go of a chance, because you are afraid to take the risk.

Remember that, from time to time, something has to happen in order to free you from monotony, so you shouldn’t be surprised if, at a certain moment in time, instead of being afraid of change, you desire it with all your heart.

If there are some things that hinder you from going on, here are some tips to help you move forward:
Just think of the positive impacts results from the psychological self-improvement. Know important they are and reflect on how to increase them, by adding some other good aspects, which need certain assistance.

Try to picture somebody else in your situation, as picturing ourselves in a less desirable position, always looks more dramatic than it really is. If you realize that the other person can handle the change, you can be sure you’ll be able to handle it as well. This is a good psychological self-improvement.

Think of the worst situation that can result after the self-improvement. Try to find various solutions to it. Reflect on how much you can loose, if the worst happened, and how important those things are to you. If you find more than one reasonable solution, you are safe and the self-improvement can’t be stronger than you are!

Self-improvement is not bad at all. All we need is to learn how to handle some negative changes. We should also reflect from it to learn and use it in the future events that we may encounter. This could be your ultimate psychological self-improvement.

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